Tired of Having the Same Fight Over and Over?
Discover the hidden pattern driving your conflicts (and why it was never about the dishes). This free guide reveals the cycle keeping you stuck so you can finally break it.
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Inside This Free Guide, You'll Discover:
Why Your Fights Aren't Really About What You Think
The dishes. The tone. The forgotten text. None of it is the real issue. Learn the one question underneath every conflict and why naming it changes everything.
Your Role in the Conflict Cycle
Are you a Pursuer, a Withdrawer, or a Blended Type? Take the quick quiz inside to identify your pattern (without shame or blame) so you can finally understand your reactions.
Why Communication Tips Haven't Worked
"I" statements. Active listening. You've tried it all. Discover why your nervous system hijacks your best intentions and what to do about it.
Three Practical Ways to Use This Guide Today
Reflection prompts for solo processing, conversation starters to share with your partner, and a framework to decode your next conflict when it happens.
Weekly Relationship Wisdom in Your Inbox
When you download the guide, you'll also join the Embracing Joy Newsletter. Every week, you'll receive compassionate, research-backed tips to help you and your partner feel closer, communicate better, and build the kind of love that lasts.
Meet Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT
I'm a couples therapist in NYC who has spent years sitting with partners in the hardest, most tender moments of their relationships.
One thing I know for sure: relationships don't come with a manual. Mine certainly didn't.
That's why I created The Conflict Decoder. Because no one ever taught us how to break the painful patterns that keep us spinning. My work blends Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment science, and real-world wisdom so you can stop fighting the same fight and start turning toward each other instead.
Ready to Stop Having the Same Fight??
Download The Conflict Decoder and discover what's really driving your conflicts. In just a few minutes, you'll have clarity on your pattern and practical steps to start breaking the cycle.
